What about kids that are shy and not very social?
Let me draw out a visual for you:
A timid, shy 7 year old comes in to do a class for the first time. He’s very nervous, and unsure about what to do. Throughout the 30-45 minute class, he slowly inches out of his comfort zone, getting constant praise from the coaches for doing so. Whether he’s a quick learner or not, whether he’s athletic or not, whether he’s a “natural” or not, he receives constant praise for every effort he gives. He gets through the class feeling like this may be something that he’s good at, and then the coach walks up to him at the end with a shocked look on his face.
“Hey, I thought you said you’ve never done jiujitsu before? You did amazing today! Where else have you done jiujitsu, tell me the truth!”
This inevitably boosts his confidence as he walks out of the school with his head up and his chest out, thinking about how well he did.
This scenario is a true story, and this particular child’s confidence has grown exponentially since that day through positive reinforcements. We use constant positive reinforcement to breed confidence in the children. Of course it is important that they learn the techniques well, but you must remember that good technique will come in time, but confidence needs to come first. In fact, as parents, your one and only goal for your child when signing them up for jiujitsu should be improved confidence.
“What about discipline, respect, better grades, and all that other stuff you say jiujitsu will give my child? Why does it seem like confidence is the only thing you focus on?”
Quite simply, because confidence is the seed from which all of the other benefits are grown. That’s right, confidence comes first and all of the others follow. How can children be disciplined, if they’re not confident in themselves? How can children achieve higher grades if they are not confident in themselves? How can children develop self respect or genuine respect for others, if they are not confident in themselves? Developing confidence at an early age is a vital factor in the formula for success. Yeah, it’s that important.